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		<title>What I Learned at Wendy&#8217;s: An Accidental Meeting with Small-Town Gay America</title>
		<link>http://arewemarried.com/2009/11/05/what-i-learned-at-wendys-an-accidental-meeting-with-small-town-gay-america/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:47:54 +0000</pubDate>
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				<category><![CDATA[2009 Elections]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Let's talk about Garfield County, Washington, population 2,060. To my knowledge, I've never been there. In fact, until yesterday, I had no idea Garfield County existed. Currently it holds the record for the greatest percentage of voters to reject Referendum 71, the everything-but-marriage referendum. More than 77% voted to reject R-71.*

But nearly 22%, 192 people, voted to uphold the law. Doesn't sound like much, it's true. How about this number? 219,897--that's the number of people who voted to approve R-71 in the yellow counties, the ones like Garfield County, in which a majority of voters rejected R-71.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>Let&#8217;s talk about <a title="Garfield County WA" href="http://co.garfield.wa.us/">Garfield County</a>, Washington, population 2,060. </strong>To my knowledge, I&#8217;ve never been there. In fact, until yesterday, I had no idea Garfield County existed. Currently it holds the record for the greatest percentage of voters to reject Referendum 71, the everything-but-marriage referendum. More than 77% voted to reject R-71.*</p>
<p>But nearly 22%, 192 people, voted to uphold the law. Doesn&#8217;t sound like much, it&#8217;s true. <strong>How about this number? 219,897&#8211;that&#8217;s the number of people who voted to approve R-71 in the <a title="R-71 results by county - WA Secretary of State " href="http://vote.wa.gov/Elections/WEI/ResultsByCounty.aspx?ElectionID=32&amp;RaceID=102369&amp;CountyCode=%20&amp;JurisdictionTypeID=-2&amp;RaceTypeCode=M&amp;ViewMode=Results">yellow counties</a>,</strong> the ones like Garfield County, in which a majority of voters rejected R-71.</p>
<p>In Washington, as is the case in many other states in which one area&#8217;s population is massive and the rest of the state&#8217;s just isn&#8217;t, the Puget Sound area of Western Washington and its left-leaning voters usually win statewide elections. This creates a lot of bitterness in the eastern part of the state, and I guess I can understand why. It would suck to feel like your vote didn&#8217;t count.</p>
<p>And in case I didn&#8217;t remind you yet today, we are winning in Washington.<strong> Approve R-71 holds its lead.</strong> Sorry, Eastern WA (not really).</p>
<p>219,897. That&#8217;s 37% of the current count of votes in favor of R-71. <strong>That&#8217;s 219,897 people in the more conservative areas of Washington who <em>didn&#8217;t </em>succumb to the pressure of their neighbors to reject the rights of same-sex couples.</strong> As much as it mattered that King County and other Puget Sound residents sent in their ballots this year to put R-71 over the top, it mattered that these people did, too. I want to thank each one of those 219,897 people, but I especially want to thank the 192 Approve voters in Garfield County. You are my heroes of the day.</p>
<p><strong>A few days ago we were in Clayton, Georgia, population 2019. </strong>We drove up from our campsite at Talullah Gorge State Park about 10 miles south to visit Wendy&#8217;s. No, it wasn&#8217;t because we wanted a Frosty. Wendy&#8217;s is one of the few places in Clayton, Georgia that has free WiFi for its guests, an amenity usually missing from state park campgrounds.</p>
<p>We were there for about a half hour when another WiFi user, a guy, came in and sat across from us, next to the only visible outlet in the place. We exchanged pleasantries, and almost immediately my gaydar went off. <em>No, Ruby. This is small-town Georgia.</em></p>
<p>We started talking with him about Frances, and several times he dropped hints about his sexual orientation. Still I argued with myself. What were the odds? We were nearly the only people in the place. <strong>But when he said, &#8220;Well, I&#8217;m not going to have children unless they figure out a way for men to give birth,&#8221; I had to admit it: this guy was gay.</strong></p>
<p>We spent hours in that Wendy&#8217;s, talking to Brandon and eventually his friend Kristen, a straight ally. We talked about the difficulty of being out and gay in a small town, worrying about your safety. We agreed that the recently-passed federal hate crimes law was a good thing.</p>
<p>Then Brandon and Kristen told us about other gay people in the area. There was a gay couple who owned a restaurant that we could see through the window from where we sat. Down the road was a bar owned by a lesbian couple, an LGBT hangout. And nearby, Brandon told us proudly, was an all-LGBT church. Just over the border in North Carolina, he said, was a small town that had one of the highest per capita gay populations in the country.</p>
<p>We were kind of floored by this. <strong>I think I used to believe that part of the coming out process for everyone who wasn&#8217;t born in a big liberal city was to move to one. </strong>And maybe that&#8217;s usually true. But some people stay, or come back. And they have friends.</p>
<p>In Garfield County, Washington, they have 192 friends. Brave, wonderful friends who vote with their hearts to protect our rights throughout the state of Washington.</p>
<p>*Note: the numbers change frequently as remaining votes are counted. All numbers quoted are as of 6:39 a.m. PST on 11/5.</p>
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