Comments on: A Paradigm Shift for Marriage http://arewemarried.com/2009/10/23/a-paradigm-shift-for-marriage/ A road trip across the country to visit our marriage Sat, 13 Nov 2010 01:18:13 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: CraftLass http://arewemarried.com/2009/10/23/a-paradigm-shift-for-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-96 CraftLass Sat, 24 Oct 2009 17:01:12 +0000 http://arewemarried.com/?p=651#comment-96 Of course they can't get good coherent thoughts together, they are waging a war that makes no sense! I really think our practice of allowing a religious leader to perform legal marriages is a part of the problem, it's easy to understand how ignorant people inextricably link religious and civil marriage, even though they actually have different rules, down to the vows required by each state and each religion. In France, for example, you have to have two separate ceremonies to get married in a church, one civil and the one in the church. It makes the distinctions clearer, I suspect. It also makes sense in a secular/polytheistic society. Okay, so it adds a little hassle to wedding-planning, but that's a big hassle anyway! lol I wish these people would stop "defending marriage" and use that energy to make their own marriages the best they can be. Sometimes I wonder how many people on that side of this fight are considering divorce, statistics show it's likely that quite a few are. Glad you are working so hard in Maine, it would really be great if all of New England took this plunge! Oh, and stay warm! :) Of course they can’t get good coherent thoughts together, they are waging a war that makes no sense! I really think our practice of allowing a religious leader to perform legal marriages is a part of the problem, it’s easy to understand how ignorant people inextricably link religious and civil marriage, even though they actually have different rules, down to the vows required by each state and each religion. In France, for example, you have to have two separate ceremonies to get married in a church, one civil and the one in the church. It makes the distinctions clearer, I suspect. It also makes sense in a secular/polytheistic society. Okay, so it adds a little hassle to wedding-planning, but that’s a big hassle anyway! lol

I wish these people would stop “defending marriage” and use that energy to make their own marriages the best they can be. Sometimes I wonder how many people on that side of this fight are considering divorce, statistics show it’s likely that quite a few are.

Glad you are working so hard in Maine, it would really be great if all of New England took this plunge! Oh, and stay warm! :)

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