Marriage (and Other LGBT) Equality in Maryland, Virginia, and Delaware

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Catching up again on the states we missed. We saw this license plate outside of a FedEx Kinko’s in Woodbridge, VA. The guy who helped us there was family. Not sure if this was his car, or what the intention behind it was, but as we were on our way to the National Equality March, it seemed like a great omen.

We’re now in Pennsylvania, where we’ve made it out of the trailer and are soaking up the home lovin’ at my cousin’s place. The coffee is good here, and we get to do our laundry without quarters and not worry about whether the fridge is popping open on the road. And oh, yeah, unlike at the Prince William Forest Travel Trailer Village, the Internet works here. It’s pretty good living.

Maryland

  • Maryland law states, “Only a marriage between a man and a woman is valid in this state.” In 2006, a trial court ruled in Deane & Polyak v. Conaway that the law was a violation of the state constitution. On appeal in 2007, the verdict was overturned. On July 1, 2008, a domestic partnership law went into effect in Maryland. By affidavit, signed by a notary, Maryland residents may declare themselves domestic partners. (Equality Maryland has one you can print out here.) Two other forms of proof are also required. This entitles couples to 11 protections, including hospital visitation, sharing of nursing home rooms, funeral planning rights, and state property tax exemptions similar to those allowed spouses and children.
  • Domestic partners may make medical decisions on behalf of an incapacitated partner, and may visit a partner in the hospital.
  • Any adult in Maryland may adopt, and Maryland law prohibits adoption agencies from denying applications based on sexual orientation. There is no prohibition against same-sex couples jointly adopting or adopting each other’s children, but no cases have been tried to test this.
  • After sex reassignment surgery, a Maryland resident may amend his or her birth certificate. A case tried in 2003 upheld the right of the courts to declare sex change.
  • Both gender identity and sexual orientation are covered under Maryland’s hate crimes laws.
  • The law in Maryland protects residents against discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation, but not gender identity.
  • There are reporting laws in the schools for gender identity and sexual orientation harassment and intimidation. Maryland law also states that students have the right to a safe school environment regardless of sexual orientation. These are the limits of current safe schools laws in the state. [via HRC]

Virginia

  • At the National Equality March, Ami and I met a woman wearing a wedding dress. She told us, with a sneer, “My wife and I moved to Virginia, and she went back to being my roommate.” In 2006 a ballot measure adding a ban on same-sex marriage and civil unions to the Virginia State Constitution, 57.1% to 42.9%. [via Ballotopedia] The Constitution says, “That only a union between one man and one woman may be a marriage valid in or recognized by this Commonwealth and its political subdivisions. This Commonwealth and its political subdivisions shall not create or recognize a legal status for relationships of unmarried individuals that intends to approximate the design, qualities, significance, or effects of marriage. Nor shall this Commonwealth or its political subdivisions create or recognize another union, partnership, or other legal status to which is assigned the rights, benefits, obligations, qualities, or effects of marriage.” Harsh, Virginia.
  • Any adult in Virginia may adopt. There is no prohibition against same-sex couples jointly adopting or adopting each other’s children, but no cases have been tried to test this.
  • Adults in Virginia may designate another person to make medical decisions on his or her behalf. This must be in the form of a written advance directive witnessed by two others, or orally in the presence of a doctor and two witnesses. Virginia law states that hospitals must allow anyone to visit a patient, even same-sex partners.
  • Virginia will issue a new birth certificate upon presentation of “acceptable evidence” of sex reassignment, including a physician’s affidavit.
  • There are no laws specifying increased penalty for hate crimes against people on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity.
  • There are no protections in Virginia against discrimination based on gender identity or sexual orientation.
  • There are no safe schools laws in Virginia. [via HRC unless otherwise noted]

Delaware

  • Delaware law states, “A marriage is prohibited and void … between persons of the same gender. … A marriage obtained or recognized outside the state between persons prohibited by subsection (a) of this section shall not constitute a legal or valid marriage within the state.”
  • In Delaware, a same-sex partner may make medical decisions on behalf of an incapacitated partner if nobody else the law designates, such as a parent, adult child, etc., is available–as “an adult who has exhibited special care and concern for the patient.” A person may also name a same-sex partner in an advance health care directive. It must be in writing, signed, dated, and witnessed by two or more people.
  • In Delaware any adult may adopt. There is no prohibition against same-sex couples adopting, but no case has been heard in the state to affirm or deny this right. There have been cases in which same-sex couples were allowed to adopt each other’s children.
  • After sex reassignment surgery and a name change, a Delaware birth certificate may be amended and reissued. A court order must verify the surgery and name change.
  • Hate crimes laws in Delaware addresses sexual orientation, but not gender identity.
  • Non-discrimination law in Delaware does not address gender identity. However, a 2009 executive order issued by Governor Markell prohibits discrimination in employment for executive branch state employees on the basis of gender identity or expression. Delaware law prohibits discrimination based on sexual identity.
  • Delaware safe schools laws protect the physical welfare of students generally, but does not mention sexual orientation or gender identity. [via HRC]
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  • Olive

    Do I have a story for you!

    17 years ago, I was camping with Kiersten in the north cascades. We didn’t like our spot, so we got up about 6am to find a better, more remote spot.

    We were driving down a single lane, gravel road in her 82 datsun. I shouted “look out for the road rhino!” (Rock in the road) and she said “duh”

    This response told me to pipe down. Unfortunately, this entire exhange was not enough of a warning for kiersten, as she ran right over that rock and destroyed the front, passenger tire and rim.

  • Olive

    Oh! You might think this sounds kinda tragic? Well, let me explain…

    We were 8 miles from even the nearest gravel road. And an unknown distance from the highway and a gas station.

    And remember: 6am

    So, we start walking…. And walking… And a few miles in … We are both a little crabby, but what’s next? Kiersten begins to panic that we’re being stalked by evil cougars just beyond our vision in the trees and shrubs.

    Oh… Did I memtion we were lugging the tire with us? We thought we’d try and exchange it.

  • Olive

    Fast forward to 10:30am….

    Hot, sweaty and hungry with that layer of hot mountain dust that clings to you in August

    We make it to a gas station with a little help from a nice gentleman willing to stop for 2 teenage hitchikers in cut-off shorts and bathing suits. He kindly suggested a 3 way.

    Fortunately, when we declined, he dropped us off at a gas station that sold old, used, trash heap tires.

    We grabbed one that appeared to be similar in size and tread. At this moment, we might have noticed the lug nut holes did not match – one tire had 4 spots and the other had 5…..

  • Olive

    Back to the highway to hitchhike back…

    A young, married hippy couple pick us up in their vw bus!

    Oh boy! We think we’ve hit the jackpot. PLUS, they agree to take us all the way to the car!

    As we drive, it becomes very clear that not only are they loaded, but swingers! Again, we decline – we insist that, although extremely tempting, we really must focus on the tire situation.

    We grab our new-old tire with jubilation and run to the 82 datsun. We grab the jack and beging pumping… And then we discover the lugnut mistake… Omfg. Right?

    Well, the hippy couple we had rebuffed were still there and willing to drive us back to the highway to find somebody else to help us….

  • Olive

    As you might imagine, this goes on for hours? Oh yes. We never did find a tire that worked… But at some point during the day, kiersten mentions that the datsun came with this little tiny tire that might work for short distances.

    Uhm, what? Yup. In the car the whole time.

    We went back to the car, with the help of more kind northern cascades folk. And installed that tiny little donut thingy and drove away from that dirt road with the troublesome road rhino.

    In doing so, we melted the brake pads or something and I dunno what the hell else… But we were now stranded on the shoulder of the highway. And it was 6:30pm.

    Do I win?

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